Design, Timing, and Etiquette
We’re not trying to tell you what to do here, but even in our electronic age, you can’t go wrong with a good quality cardstock and paper for your wedding correspondence.
Paper feels special. It adds elegance and flair, makes a dandy keepsake, and rules out any possibility of inconveniencing or scandalizing the more traditional guests. Your best allies in this process: a good print shop/stationer and a talented graphic designer. Whichever one you find first, you’ll want to work with someone who has wedding experience—ask to see a portfolio and make sure they’re versed in the importance of the correct timeline and the finer details of wedding-correspondence etiquette. Your designer may be able to lead you to a good print shop—or the other way around, as these professionals often work together.
tips
- Use a logo or insignia that you both love on all wedding correspondence: save the date cards, invitations, RSVP cards, maps, programs, place cards, menus, thank you notes. It can be as simple as your initials entwined, but it will add a sleek, unified feel and help guests keep everything together at a glance.
- If you’re doing a website, include the URL on all correspondence.
- Eco-conscious? Save some trees with recycled paper. Create some new flora with the seed-infused type that can be planted.
timing
- Engagement announcements: As soon as you’re sure! (If you’ve chosen a date, these can double as save the date cards.)
- Save the date cards: As soon as your guest list is finalized. If you’re planning a destination wedding, send these out several months in advance.
- Invitations and RSVP cards: Three months in advance if travel is involved; at least six to eight weeks for a wedding that’s closer to home. Don’t forget to request that RSVPs be returned at least a week or two before you need to finalize numbers with your caterer!
- Maps and schedules: Can be included with your invitations or posted on your website.
- Wedding announcements: Send out the day of the wedding or the day after.
- Thank you notes: Should be sent within two to three weeks after you return from the honeymoon. (Including a fun photo is a nice touch.)
thorny invitation questions
- Must all singles get a plus-one? It’s a nice touch, but if budget, space, or other considerations make it impractical, consider seating all singles together at the reception.
- Should registry information be on the invitation? No. Save any reference to registries for your website and/or to share with friends who inquire.
- No kids? Phrase it as “Adults only” rather than “No children.” Better yet, call your friends with kids and discuss it personally.
- Dress code? Phrases such as “Black tie, please” or “Dress for comfort” are helpful. Beyond that, no matter what your fantasy may be, leave the couture choices up to the guests.
barkeeper
High Falls, 845-325-6143, barkeeperbarservice@gmail.com
Barkeeper is your one-stop consultation, planning and bartending service. Founded by an experienced bartender, backed by a hardworking and knowledgeable team, Barkeeper is the perfect choice for your wedding, public event, or private party. Give us a call or message us here and we will be happy to help you with your next bar event. From designing a menu, specialty cocktails, consultation on guest numbers, and what to buy, we are here for you. Cheers!
Graphic Nature
Fishkill, 845-765-2727, graphicnature.biz
YOU SET THE DATE. WE SET THE TONE. Your invitations are your guests’ first glimpse into your wedding. They should match your personal style, reflect you as a couple and set the tone for your big day. EVERYTHING we do, for EVERY client is 100% custom. With every client, we start with a blank slate and end with a piece that is truly one of a kind. Why waste time and energy searching for the ‘perfect’ invitation when we will just create it for you.
Sugarpop Piñatas
Hurley, etsy.com/shop/SugarpopPinatas
Let us make your next event a smash hit with a custom piñata! Tell us about your wedding theme, style or colors, and we’ll create a gorgeous, unique piñata just for you. Simply fill it with whatever goodies you choose and let the fun begin. Every detail is designed and crafted by hand with top-quality recycled decorative papers right here in the Hudson Valley. Our all-natural papier mâché blend includes sugar, lemons... and love. Enjoy!
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Accord, 845-626-0061, barefurnitureny.net
We are a family-owned and operated facility, conveniently located 90 miles north of New York City in the scenic Ulster County in the Hudson Valley. We have two family businesses: Bare Furniture and A&G Custom Made Furniture. Bare Furniture offers solid wood, unfinished furniture from living & dining to home office and entertainment. Visit our Accord, NY showroom today!
The Mad Hatter Chimney Sweep
Accord, 845-687-4745, madhatterchimney.com
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Williams Lumber & Home Centers
Hudson Valley, 845-876-9663 (Rhinebeck location) williamslumber.com
At a loss for what to give? You can never go wrong with the gift of home improvement. The Williams family and staff have been committed to providing unsurpassed excellence in service, quality, and price for 64 years. Pick up a gift card at one of their nine locations throughout the Hudson Valley.
